While having a conversation with a neighbor and fellow yoga teacher this morning we were sharing about our lives, where we are going and what is new. She mentioned that she might get a new job doing exactly what she has been wanting to do and since she is about to graduate with this exact degree, she would have a job doing that. So what is the problem you might ask?
It is all happening too easily. Granted in addition to that, she would have to give up some yoga jobs that she has and her life would change drastically pretty quickly, but this job is exactly what she has been dreaming for and wanting.
It is also the case when the right relationship comes in your life. I think a lot of us dream and scheme about the type of person that we want in our life. We make lists and have visions of how that person will look, act, love, etc. Then when that person comes into our life, because we have worked on our belief system that he/she does exist and that we are worthy of that kind of love, some of us get freaked out. Like wait, that was way too easy, there must be something wrong with this person.
Both of these examples make me think of fighting. We have been trained to think that you have to fight for things, i.e. work really hard, pay your dues, put in your time. So much so that when something comes too easily we think that there is something wrong with it. On top of that, when we begin to get really clear about what we want and vision it and then it comes, it scares us because it usually means big change. Sometimes we are comfy with the way things are, even though we gripe and complain and wish they were different. When they change and something better comes in, we get scared. “Well I thought this is what I wanted, but now I am not sure”, we say.
So why do we think that all of the good things in our lives come from “fighting” for them? Why do we think we have to work hard for the good stuff? Why do we feel if we don’t make an effort towards something that there is something wrong with it?
I believe the answer to these questions is due to the way we were raised, society’s views and conditioning. We are conditioned that if we work hard, someone will say good job and believe it or not we become conditioned to wait for those words “good job.” So at a very early age we are always saying “Mom, mom look what I just did/drew/made”, etc and mom says “good job.” Doesn’t sound that bad, right? It isn’t, but it is something to ponder. Where do we wait for the “good job” in our lives now as adults? Can we just accept something good when it comes to us without effort? Can we not question it?
Amma, also known as the hugging guru says that “love is effortless.” So my deduction on why good things just fall in our laps sometimes without effort is because they are meant to be and well so what if we didn’t work hard for them. Define working hard anyway. It’s relative. And it is just a perception that we hold. It is a belief system that we need to let go of, the idea that we have to “work hard” for everything in our lives.
So take a deep breath. Breathe in and vision all of the things you want to create in your life. Breathe out those things no longer serving you. Focus each breath this way for about 15 minutes or more if you can. Visualize. Allow. Surrender.
Start letting in and allowing all the good to come into your life. Don’t run from it when it comes. It is what you wanted, right? If not, get more clear about what you want. Accept the “negative” things and rejoice the positive.
Repeat this mantra: I am available to more good then I have ever experienced, realized, or manifested before! Open your arms and receive.
Love and light,